Will You Remember Your Troubles a Year from Today?

Have you ever come across a situation where you were curious about a question, but couldn’t find the answer to it? The fact that you couldn’t find the answer caused frustration and you kept thinking about it over and over again.

Inside, you keep telling yourself that finding the answer is pointless, useless, and isn’t going to be life changing. But are part of you still wants to know, even when knowing the answer won’t change any circumstance or outcome; it is just because you feel overwhelmed by a feeling right now that can’t control your urges. An obsession is formed.

Things like this are examples of what I call troubles… There are many definitions for this word, but we usually associate the word “trouble” with being in “trouble” or being in a position that is unfortunate. I see “trouble,” however, more as a result of being in an unfortunate position. The simplest and best definition I got from dictionary.com was “mental or emotional disturbances or distress; worry.”

Our troubles can often take the form of frustration, annoyance, worry, anxiety, doubt, and fear. These things are interrelated with each other and can cause distress that can hinder or completely halt basically anything we want to get done in our daily lives. It is like a 40 pound steel ball chained to your ankle. And until you do something about it, it will remain there.

Although it would be nice if human beings can have switch that can turn our emotions on and off, strong emotions, especially negatives ones that come in pinches, will be there and we have to be ready to deal with them.

But the thing is most people try to use logic to cure a problem that is emotional. Even if things make sense, if the emotion is strong enough, you will still feel pain.

For example, if you just went through a breakup and you use every logical reason to justify why it was not your fault and why it is was their fault, and it makes perfect sense, you may still be burying your head under the pillow sobbing and using up a dozen boxes of Kleenex tissues.

How about when you go to see a doctor and the nurses there treat you rudely? Or how about when you are walking across the street and a car doesn’t even wait for you to cross and instead goes right by ahead of you? How about when get a haircut and tell the barber what you want but they cut it too short or too long? Or how about when your relatives criticize you because of what you wear, or what you do, or what you act like?

These are all things that can cause us “mental or emotional disturbances.” If you waited a long time to see the doctor and the nurses or people who work there treat you rudely, this can cause minor frustration. If you had a job interview in a couple of days, but the barber cut your hair somewhat bad, you may worry the interview will be bad. If your relatives criticize you once or twice because they don’t agree with you, this can cause annoyances that make you want to argue with them.

Sometimes the best way is not to think of ways to logically combat these situations. “I waited hear for two hours; can’t you be any nicer!” “Oh no… this haircut looks horrible, but it’s too late. I can’t go to the interview like this…” “I spent the entire weekend with you guys; why don’t you guys be more supportive?”

Instead, it might be better to just let it go.

In the grand scheme of things, it might be a big deal right now, but it will it be a big deal a year from now? For example, look back 360 days ago and recall the memories you had that were troublesome for you. Do you even recall any of these memories? If so, did that memory even bother you up until the point before you even read this? The chances are problems that existed a year ago that seemed major back then, are really minor things now.

I’ve had many frustrating and anxious moments a year ago, but I didn’t even realize them before writing this. I think it’s because during the period of a year we have too many thoughts and feelings that will have passed by that it’s literally impossible to remember all the moments that made us feel a minor mental pain in our bodies. Even the people who have caused those disturbing moments for you, they have probably completely forgotten about them a year ago.

So thinking about the times cause us moments of troubles is really rather pointless, because they will most likely be forgotten a year from now and cause us to think of something that puts us in one place of emotional turmoil instead of carrying us forward. It’s like quicksand; the more you fight your troubles, the more you sink in, and the harder it is to get out.

Do not dwell in trouble; or “mental and emotional disturbances and distress.” Find a way to move on away from those anxieties, those frustrations, and those annoyances by letting them go.

If you experience some minor disturbances that you know from your gut feeling are really pointless, see if you can just try your best to hold it and deal with it at the end of the day, or at the end of the week, or even better at the end of the month. I’m pretty sure by the end of the month that moment will be forgotten. But if anything, deal with it in one year and see if you still want to deal with it, because most likely so much will have changed in a year that what you think at this time to be a big deal will be nothing but a small laugh at why you thought it was a big deal in the first place a year from today.

Tristan Lee is a writer who enjoys helping others with self-improvement and personal success. Read more of his self-improvement posts at his blog, http://www.tristanleesblog.com/.

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